The War on Finding True Love

Nowadays, many things have been made complicated for the worst, like finding true love. So many incorrect definitions and ideas that surround us have caused us, in a way, to be blind to what true love is. Society portrays true love like a retail store. It’ll allow you to pick and choose what you’d like solely determined by what you see. Even worse , we’ve been given the idea that we can even return items after we try them if it wasn’t what we expected. This type of false love says: it’s ok to use people, bruise them, cause rejection, and many other unfortunate things. We too often look for “true love” with the wrong mentality. Instead of checking for character a lot of times we check for the checking account first. Instead of checking out morals we’d rather check their hair type. We must stop defining & selecting love by solely what we see.
Foremost, we must get the correct definition, an understanding, of what love is in our minds then go from there. We have be willing to unlearn the incorrect definitions and ways in order to recondition our minds to be able find true love. If we would go back to what the bible says about love, we’d find out that God is love and that love is rooted as an intrinsic thing. It’s what dwells in you, it’s part of your identity and when that’s the case it’s easy to display love. Just like 1John 4:16 says, “God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.” Love should be determined/displayed by your actions not by what you have. Again back to the bible, “ For God so loved the World that he GAVE his only begotten Son.” God showed us the greatest example of true love when he gave his Son to die for our sins. We can’t get caught up on what a person has or how they look and say that’s love because looks can fade and things don’t last forever.

We must understand that 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 speaks about the characteristics of love. It’s states,"Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." When we compare this definition to society’s definition of love we realize that true love starts from within. I’m not saying the that outer doesn’t mean anything I’m just implying that it doesn’t mean everything.


Truly ask yourself, if the make-up was wiped off and the millions were gone, would the love still be there? I can admit, I’m guilty of going after the false type of love but when it never completely satisfied me I knew something was wrong. I had to realize that true love comes from God and I needed Him to teach me how to love again the right way. He showed me a love that forgives, a love that help heals, a love that ministers/encourages, a love that covers, a love that mends, a love that never leaves, a love that keeps you satisfied, it’s a heartfelt love. Best of all, God showed me how to love him back and now I can love others. True love starts within and then comes out. Remember, love should be a part of your nature. Go back and let God show you what love is. Stay in the Race. -Eri @EriHolmes